Ladies Who F***

Dearest horny reader,

Let’s talk about why we’re here. Women are told our whole lives that our pussy is something sacred that only the chosen few should be able to access, and if too many people access it, nobody will want it anymore.  And from the moment we receive this message, we’re constantly on the lookout to make sure our “number” isn’t getting too high.

Now, I will agree our reproductive organs are special, beautiful things capable of so much pleasure. And if you believe in your bodily autonomy, the pleasure derived from such should be all ours to own.

So why do we really get these messages about virginity, chastity and not having too much fun? Is it really because the bearers of these messages want the best for us? Doubtful. My belief is these messages are all about control and upholding the status quo of hetero relationships, with a healthy side of “keep women in their place while making them think they’ve achieved equality because now we let them go to work, contribute to the GDP, and run a house!”

What would happen if women truly accessed their pleasure? Would we still want to be mothers, constantly sacrificing ourselves to give free labor to raise the next generation? Or would we want to be more like men – doing what pleases us, when it pleases us, with the confidence and swagger to proceed without caution?

If we weren’t afraid men would reject us for having too high a number, what would we do differently? Personally, I still stew over a missed opportunity with a stranger. I turned it down for a few reasons, but the main one was because something about it felt “not right.” It had nothing to do with him, but everything to do with a situation where I was meeting someone I’d very likely never see again. And I felt like it would say something bad about my character if I had gone for it.

If we focused more on what feels good to us and then acted on it, I think it would change the face of the average woman as we know it. We’d be more confident in our bodies and sexuality. We’d take more risks with our careers. We would stop being suckered into buying a new lipstick or dress to make ourselves feel sexual, or thinking we need those things to be desirable. We would invest our mental stock in ourselves instead of others.

It’s only after we’ve recognized and dismantled these messages that we can accept and love ourselves, and have the truly great sex we deserve.

~Lady Dickdown